As you may have learned by now, expectations don't always live up to reality. And, as a recent post on r/AskReddit shows, that can be true even when you embark on what you believed to be the best career in the world.
Created by user u/American-pickle, it asked people, "Did you ever obtain your 'dream job' to realize it wasn't actually what you wanted—why did it not live up to expectations?"
Immediately, zookeepers, flight attendants, and many other professionals started replying, explaining how the day-to-day realities such as long hours, monotony, and workload have disappointed them.
#1
All throughout childhood and college I wanted to be a zookeeper.When I was finally offered the internship though, it took me less than a week to realize I couldn't stomach it.
It's a lot less "playing with and training cute animals" and a lot more "cleaning up the vilest messes and being bombarded with the absolute worst smells on planet earth" than I imagined.
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#2
Never really enjoyed driving but always wanted to learn to fly. Dropped 10k on a pilots license and found out flying was just driving with up and down added. Weird was how quickly a childhood dream turned to meh.
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#3
I always wanted to be a flight attendant. Then I actually was one. No thanks ever again but for a few years it was fun, then it just became a series of indistinguishable hotel rooms and it wasn't worth putting up with the passengers anymore
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#4
Yes I wanted to be a freelance graphic designer because I heard you work for yourself. Turns out you can have 18 a hole bosses at once.
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#5
Sort of. I got close to it. Close enough to see what that life would actually be like. And it sucked. It turns out, I don’t like working on celebrities. They’re kind of annoying clients. It’s not fun and glamorous. It’s unnecessarily stressful. And I don’t want to be a famous stylist or famous anything. It makes people weird. Mark Ruffalo is only normal because he hasn’t figured out he’s famous yet.I still enjoy doing hair. And I still like people, for the most part. So I went with a more low key path. I’m very happy with my choices. Sometimes on the way to your dream job, you have to make adjustments.
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#6
I dreamt about working in Veterinary Medicine my whole life. When I finally did, I ended up traumatized. It wasn't the blood, the abuse, or even the euthanasia. It was how we just didn't talk about it. Bad day? Don't talk about it. Got hurt? Don't talk about it. Rude pet parent? Don't talk about it. Burnt out? Don't talk about it. I felt so alone in situations where having support was essential.
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#7
Doctor.Currently working 7am-7pm 6 days a week for months at a time. 4 weeks of vacation a year. I am getting paid about $12 per hour when you do the math out.
That is residency. I wanted to help people but this field takes advantage of that and the hospital CEOs and decreasing insurance reimbursement takes advantage of that.
I chose to do diagnostic radiology because this internal medicine lifestyle and workload is just ridiculous.
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#8
I got to work on 3d models in a large game studio.Turns out I hate working in an office setting, I can't stand office culture, and they don't pay living wages for new employees.
Now I get to help sick and injured people while living in a small mountain town, making enough money to buy a house and travel when I want.
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#9
Being a professor. The academe is full of know-it-alls and stuffy experts with attitude problems. Hard to work when it feels like you're walking on eggshells every time you approach a senior faculty member. Plus, they exploit the living hell out of the younger faculty members, saying that this is for experience when it is clearly just running tasks that they don't want to do.
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#10
My first job out of college was as a forestry field tech. Turns out camping is way less fun when you worked 10 hours, don't have cell service, are on a random flat spot you found, and there's no one to talk to. Now make that 8 days in a row, your only water is in jugs in the work truck, and you're covered in grime and wearing the same clothes for the entire time.Now I get to stay in a cabin during field season. Having running water, a bed, and four friendly people on the crew is a godsend. I am so much happier just having company and running water, "adventure" be damned.
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#11
I got my dream job as a designer of skiing magazines, but then my workload doubled with no raise, the raises I was promised never came, all of the people I liked working with left, and things just got gradually worse. I left three months ago, and they still haven't been able to fill the position because they're offering a wage that was low nine years ago for half of the work.
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#12
Teaching. Thought it be nice but was totally not suited to it, was dreadful at managing behaviour and just couldn't understand how to plan or deliver lesson. I sucked. It amazes me how much teaching is promoted by the mass media and society as a "anybody can do it job". It certainly isn't and I met some unhappy colleagues who hated it too or that weren't suited to it either when I was there but were trapped in it.Also if you can't control a class don't expect management to understand,they won't. They'll see it as your fault. To them, the school is their business and the kids and their parents are their customers they want kept happy. Parental complaints look bad on you so don't expect management to side with you or have empathy. They often see it as your fault and you as the problem.
It definitely is a marmite profession that comes back to your personality type. Just being able to manage kids alone isn't enough, it's so much more that requires a massive array of skills and talent. You either have the knack or you don't and in my new profession now I'm often asked why I left such a "cushy job/ handy number" like teaching. The same people won't believe me when I try to tell them and believe it's an easy gig. People appear to think because the holidays are good it makes it a dream job and negates everything else.
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#13
Healthcare.It's one of the most soul crushing jobs out there.
A kid in the pediatric intensive care unit with severe injuries while his parents tell conflicting stories on how he got injured.
Knowing and seeing what "teratogenic" is.
Children getting severe infections and getting declared brain dead and then you have to tell the parents that their kid is now just a living meat bag.
Pay is good at least.
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#14
I thought I wanted to be a manager but ended up only having to deal with my employees personal lives and feelings and not having any time left to do the fun stuff so I left. It clearly wasn’t my thing.
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#15
all through college I wanted to be a software engineer. I got the job and hated everything. the work was tedious, the impact I was making was miniscule, and my team was constantly s**t on and under appreciated. I also realized I could definitely do more than code for the rest of my life
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#16
I took up ferret breeding as a profitable side-business but it sort of took over my life. I have 120 ferrets at my house at the current moment (between the furnished basement and the living/dining room) and now no one wants to come over and my friends don't want to hang out with me :(
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#17
Yes I did. I went to culinary school, worked my way up in restaurants (as a woman) washing dishes, being the fry cook, closing two stations without a change of pay at a couple places, and finally made it to an up scale restaurant in DTLA where the owners had, STILL have, a great reputation in the industry. We were nominated for two Michelin stars while I was working for them (I was a pastry cook and worked directly with the owner/head pastry chef). I finally had that job I worked so hard for, but I was extremely unhappy, unfulfilled and burnt out. I came to realize that it was always going to be “go go go” and I was never fully going to be able to rest and spend time with family. I knew it was a laborious job going in, and I was ready. What I did not expect was that I was never going to be properly compensated. Cooks are extremely underpaid, over worked and undervalued. It was a huge disappointment finding out that I would never make enough to live on my own, let alone start my own business which was my end goal.I do not regret taking that path though. When I began I was shy, quiet, and didn’t know how to speak up for myself. It doesn’t happen with everyone, but working those 8 years in the industry toughened me up, and gave me the confidence and courage I needed to accept that I was unhappy and had the option to change careers.
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#18
For sure! Worked in forensics and while the gruesome parts didn't affect me directly, I kinda lost my smile? It's a dark world, yet exciting. Worst part was for sure the work place and how it was managed.
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#19
I worked a lot of physical demanding jobs during my 20s and had these recurring fantasies about working in a store, sitting all day waiting for people to buy something, and have all that free timeWell a couple months ago I found that job. Great pay, some benefits, great bosses, but every day it's slower than the last, and weirdly enough I come back home tired from doing almost nothing all day long, tf with that?
Now sometimes I fantasize about going back to my old job, where I would end up covered up in sweat and dirt but at least there was a feeling of accomplishment
So dumb, I hate it
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#20
I've worked at a few nonprofits. I like my current job well enough but some things I've noticed:1. They tend to be filled with overdramatic people. More so than other jobs I've had like retail or fast food.
2. The pay ranges from sucks to poverty.
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#21
Wanted to be an actress. Got a place at drama school and the thing was that from day one you learned that every basic thing you always did your whole life was wrong. Talking, going, standing, speaking, breathing.... Everything was wrong. But I guess that's okay, as this was to be expected. It's a hard job.Problem was that I had an accident while rehearsing and the school gaslight me that this was my wrong doing and that I was not meant to do that job if a light push would break my jaw..while actually someone fell full force with their knee straight in my face, while I layed - as instructed - with closed eyes on the floor.
Long story short. That experience was very traumatic and I really couldn't do that job anymore.
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#22
I dreamt of working at Disney World for YEARS, finally got hired at 23. The first couple of years weren’t that bad (I had blinders on). Year 3 I realized I was literally paying to work there I was getting paid so little. Took me 4 more years to get out of the mouse trap but once I was gone I’ve never looked back.
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#23
I actually have my “dream job.” Growing up I would watch ASPCA cops and loved the idea of being a dog trainer or behavior person to help the damaged dogs get better and be adopted by loving families.I condemn a lot more dogs to death and see broken dogs unable to be saved that ASPCA cops did not show lol
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#24
When I was younger, I desperately wanted to work on the railway as the money was great, and I really loved railways and everything in that world. I eventually managed to get a job as a welder with a local firm.It was f*****g wank. Permanent nights, working every weekend in all weather, with equipment that weighed an absolute tonne that had to be loaded up dark embankments. I was working with thermite and explosive gases, usually after pushing all the gear about 3 or 4 miles down the track. One Christmas, I worked a shift on a site where a guy was killed the previous weekend after getting his arm chopped off by an excavator. They had a collection box in the site cabin with a picture of him and his young kid on it. F*****g heartbreaking. And to top it off, everyone I worked with was a complete and utter c**t.
F*****g s**t job.
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#25
Working as a chemist in an academic research lab.Academia is full of narcissistic nutjobs that pretend like their research is the holy grail of their field when it's actually practically inconsequential. The stakes are so low that the results dont matter and everyone is just scavenging for what little funding they can pull together for something nobody really wants or needs. The amount of pettiness, sabotage and frankly fraud is rather pathetic. But they face little to no repercussions because, again, nobody cares.
Which is why I now do research in a corporate lab.
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#26
My dream job for a long time was being a paid writer and/or screenwriter. I’ve more or less reached that point where I’m making a living writing, but boy is it different than what I expected. I could be cut/let go at anytime. Years on a temp contract with no benefits. I get the weirdest notes on scripts by someone who has no idea what story telling is. It’s a lot of keeping your head down, producing content and hoping it doesn’t get noted to the point you have to restart. My freelance writing work is similar where no one has what I dreamed of being an “artistic vision”. It’s more “we can’t shoot this in Los Angeles, so change it to Seattle” and then I have to go through the script and make the changes. A lot of it is just textual grunt work. I feel very lucky to have the opportunity to make a living like this, and when I say “I’m a writer” as my living, people get all starry-eyed, but the life of a working writer is really just implementing notes and trying to make it seem like no one else can do what you do.
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#27
Yeah. I always wanted to be a part of the music industry but didn't want to be a performer. I went to college for audio engineering, and was a live sound engineer/stage tech/guitar tech for about seven years. I did love the job and I'm glad I did it, but it was pretty clear after I started touring that it wasn't feasible for me as a lifestyle.In order to do the job consistently you have to basically be homeless and miss everything that happens at home. It wasn't like I was miserable and being held hostage, but after missing enough birthdays and holidays with family and instead spending them with other random stage techs that you aren't super close to, it gets hard to rationalize.
The days are long but the pay doesn't reflect that. If it was a show day, I'd usually work like 16 hours straight. I was working with pretty big-name acts but my day rate was still about $175 a day and if I asked for a raise they'd call someone else. Everything I did was also as an independent contractor, so my taxes were f****d to begin with. That was actually what forced me out of doing it full-time, the change to the tax code in 2017 pretty much ruined my career. I went from paying in $600 per year to paying in $4,000 in one year.
When I quit, I still kept doing it on the side for a few years with some of the local audio companies I worked with coming up, but it paid way less than touring which already didn't pay a lot. After about two years and the beginning of COVID, I walked away entirely to focus on my career as an electrician which is a much better fit.
I miss the experiences but I don't miss the lifestyle. Again, I'm glad I did it, but I'm glad I don't do it.
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#28
I went to school for fashion merchandising. I had an internship in NYC where I was free labor for about 6 months at a top fashion house. It made me realize how out of touch the fashion industry is. A lot of nepotism as well. It was a lot like devil wears Prada but before Andy gets a makeover.
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#29
I dreamed of landing a job as a programmer at a large company like Microsoft, Google, Amazon, Facebook, etc. And after years of grinding I finally made it. Only to find that making any sort of change was painfully slow with layers of bureaucracy. Sure, the pay was great, but after a certain point it just became another paycheck.I’m considering quitting and working at smaller startups instead.
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#30
Teaching at a collegeI ***love*** my field and I love research. It's easy to ramble for hours on end about a topic. The passion and curiosity I held for my discipline, I thought, would make me a good instructor. What I did not expect was how much hatred, contempt, jealousy, and sabotage would come from administration.
* "Oh, you're enjoying teaching an entry level class with 30 students? We'll raise the cap so it has 75 enrolled. Have fun grading until you cry each week!"
* "Oh, you want to be an expert educator in one area? Then you get to be the (unpaid) consultant on *all* department exams on that topic. Enjoy re-writing 7 midterms for your colleagues with one week's notice!"
* "Oh, you haven't had a raise in six years? The football coach *needs* to be highest paid person in the state. If you ask for a cost of living increase again we'll set the students against you by claiming inflation adjusted raises for instructors would result in doubling tuition costs for students!"
And so many of the students see the courses as box checking and are burnt out from previous bad educational experiences. I don't blame them, but no matter how hard I tried to be kind and share my excitement for the subject it felt like throwing a dandelion into the grand canyon of despair.
#31
Got a job with a U.S. state as a child abuse investigator. Like great, I get state benefits, I get to help kids, I thought it was a lot of money.How wrong I was.
Chronically understaffed, overworked, underpaid, kids lying to get their step parents in trouble. Plus the actual cases… my god. I’ve never cried so much in my life from the stress and sadness.
I now appreciate the life lessons it taught me. I was only 22 when I started that job. We celebrated people lasting 6 months. I made it 18 haha.
I now work in order management for a big U.S. corporation. It’s boring but it pays the bills without life or death consequences.
#32
I am a teacher and when I first graduated college, I couldn't decide what age range I wanted to teach. My first job was 4-12 orchestra. At first this was amazing, because I could guide the same students from beginners to graduating, but I quickly learned that the 4-12 position was supposed to be a three person job and not a one person job. I unfortunately had to quit because I was so overwhelmed and my school wouldn't hire anybody else. I lasted 6 years and I don't regret it, but I also don't miss it...
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#33
Professional fine artist (oil paints). Went to art school, had gallery shows, eventually a couple museum shows, started to get into private collections, reviewed by art critics and started to have galleries contact me for representation. I was having to work my 40 hour a week job (which I loved) AND work at least another 40 hours making art, networking, etcWe were not taught in art school that you'll be a self-employed small business owner entrepreneur working 60-100 hours a week running a business.
After growing up poor and having to work 2-5 jobs, finally landing a 9-5 that I was decent at and enjoyed... yeah, no way I was going to continue to pursue my "dream" of making art and working my a*s off at 60-100 hours a week. No thanks.
#34
realtor.I thought i would be helping people find their dream houses while also understanding the housing industry.
instead it’s a bunch of scheming and flat out lying to people, my boss flat out told me “ look if A wants to sell the house for 300k ,and B wants to buy the house for 300k, thats means we make 0$, so your job is to make A sell for 250k, and B buy for 350k so we make 100k.
Don’t trust what your realtor tells you,
I got out in less than a year.
#35
I got an amazing prestigious job, great pay, benefits, ego stroking, and community respect. The internal politics were brutal. The boss was a narcissistic nightmare. They proclaimed the be an ethical thought-leading organization and we’re anything but. They treated staff so incredibly poorly. By my last few months, I was sleeping maybe 2-3 hours a night due to stress, and was horribly depressed. This was my dream job and I’m still dealing with the repercussions of the stress.When I quit, the HR person cried, and gave me a hug and told me how proud she was of me for standing up for myself. I was the first of over 90% staff turnover. I left for a part time job making a quarter of the wage. But I started sleeping again. It was absolutely worth it.
Now, five years later, I have a new job that’s so much better, making almost as much.
#36
Worked at IBM. Dream job! Especially as an OS/2 user.The work itself was excellent. Truly excellent. Building out huge nation-spanning WANs. Deploying 1000s of workstations and the associated servers at each site. Really fun stuff.
But... the bureaucracy, OMG. The endless soul crushing pointless bureaucracy. I literally attended meetings about a meeting next month that was about a meeting a few months out that was a pre-meeting for a meeting to talk about a few hours of work. 100s of hours of time to talk about a few hours of work for 1-2 techs.
Because the work was so good I lasted 6 years, but eventually I told my boss to go f**k himself (after, for the 4th time, he tried to sneak a "promotion" past me in a review that would have made me a "manager" and also exempt from the ~$30k of overtime I was making each year.)
#37
Yeah, wanted to work on space stuff. Got a software engineer degree, ended up working on an instrument on a satellite (can't really say more than that without revealing too much). The job is interesting, but everything is so awfully slow. Basically, between making a decision and getting the result of that decision (ie. Changing a setting and seeing how it affects data), a whole month has passed. Projects last a long time, they're planned on full decades, maybe more. Stuck on a s****y instrument that's badly designed ? Welcome to dealing with it for the next 10 years. It's... I wouldn't say horrible, but certainly not for me. I got the degree, and I actually enjoy programming, so it's not like I'm stuck or anything, and the experience can only be seen positively for future endeavors. But I don't know what I want to do now.#38
I worked for a small non-profit doing work that I was super passionate about. I thought it was going to be a dream job. In reality, I was super overworked and underpaid. And being such a small organization there was lots of interpersonal drama that I was just not into.I now work a more “corporate” job, but it’s still work I’m passionate about and makes a difference. I’m getting paid over double than what I made previously, my work load is manageable, and I am way less stressed. I also really like my coworkers and boss AND I work from home full time. The job I was unsure about wound up being the dream job.
#39
QA tester for a video game company. I love games and gaming. Legitimately on my days off from my current job I can play video games 8-12 hours straight with only breaks for the bathroom.However when it became a job for me I absolutely hated it. There is no freedom. You can’t talk about what you are working on with your gaming friends and buddies either since you have strict NDAs for titles. You also have weird quotas for finding bugs in the game. It’s so odd that quantity ends up becoming more of a priority than quality. Especially if you are assigned something you actually care about. Don’t even get me started on crunch times and how swaths of people get laid off so easily even when they do great work.
#40
i didn't really obtain my "dream job" but i got close and saw that everyone who was doing it was a depressed loser on the deep down, so i just didn't bother pursuing it anymore.dream job was big law, and i got to the right law school for it, sat in the big law panel where they talk about their jobs, they were all d***s and bragged about how they only sleep 3 hours a day. one of them was obviously on something, adderall or cocaine. they seemed like a bunch of losers "but at least we have money"
i didn't even bother, few of my friends went into it and haven't heard from them since.
i don't know what i was expecting, probably the best people who are disciplined and not on f*****g drugs all day.
#41
I always wanted to be a graphic artist. I wanted to pass by billboards that I designed, print ads I made, a portfolio with all my paid work and case studies. I even centred my major around it. When I got to the professional world of it, I found out it wasn’t as fun as it was when it’s just a hobby, not even close to how I thought it was going to be. The sleepless nights, the deadlines, moving goalposts brought by irrational revisions and indecisive stakeholders; it’s draining.I shifted careers and started a job as a backend software developer. I find it more enjoying. If the code quality passes and it works as expected then I’m off the hook — no “Can you try a different font? I just wanna see it.” and “What happens if you switch this and that? How is it gonna look?” types of stuff. Fast forward I’m on an architect / designer role now. Best decision I’ve made for my long-term well-being. I still do graphic design, but it’s for my passion projects now.
#42
I have been fortunate enough to land my dream job several times. Sometimes I actually hired into it, but most times I hired into another job but was able to create a dream job for myself with an internal transfer after doing superlative work for a few years.And every single time it didn't last. No matter how well I did the job, no matter how profitable for the company, no matter how satisfied the customers, at some point upper management wants *more* and hires in additional management to "improve" the situation. The new management *doesn't know what we do or how we do it* and starts micromanaging until the dream job is a daily nightmare. *Every single time.* Idiot managers often don't even know what damage they have done until we all quit and the business collapses. Some of the worst management-idiots even escape to a new promotion and suffer no consequences for the destruction.
Still salty about it? Yes, yes, I am.
#43
I wanted to run a lab and be a principle investigator in biotechnology. I got into a great grad school right after college and was part of a cutting-edge laboratory. I was on the fast track to the career of my dreams. As I learned more about what running a lab is actually like, and how bureaucratic the academic sciences were, I just lost interest. I decided to leave my PhD program early with a Master's instead and I haven't really looked back.#44
I am a programmer. I love my job, but it's giving me a constant headache and sometimes even anxiety because if I can't finish a project in time my boss is probably going to scream at me or my coworker just because we're extremely short staffed and we need more people but my boss thinks "it's only typing on a keyboard how hard could that be"I love my job. I love being a programmer. But trust me, it's not as good as you might think.
Even when you're home you will think about work because you work with your brain and your brain does not stop working, you are training your mindset to be a programmer most of the time and it's hard not being one
On the bright side I do most of the things in the house since I can work my ways around most things
#45
I wanted to be a scientist.Did undergraduate degree, and tbh already knew that was not a field for me.
Did a PhD because… I knew I didn’t really like science, but I didn’t know what I did want.
Did a postdoc position (scientist). Hated it. Underpaid AF. I hate the publish or perish stressful nature of science. And the position is only 2 years, so no stability. You’re supposed to do like 2-4 of these positions before any hope to get anything permanentish. Maybe.
Became a scientist at a medical company start up. I still don’t like science. But I do get paid well enough that I am not desperate to start anything new.